Oh, the holidays. A time for counting our blessings and gathering with extended family. A time for filling stockings and cheerfully singing Christmas carols. A time for sending out brightly-colored greeting cards with photos of our families and receiving the same. At least that's what we're told we should do. And many people DO love this time of year and do just these things and enjoy every moment of the season.
But if you're childless not by choice, or experiencing difficulty adding more children to your family, it can actually be the hardest time of the year. I remember vividly the Christmas of 2004. I was on break from teaching and the baby that our adoption agency had confidently assured us would be in our arms by Christmas was nowhere on the horizon. After four years of the "fertility treatment & adoption roller coaster" and still being childless, I had had enough of The Most Wonderful Time of the Year. I spent those two weeks of my holiday break that year napping as much as I possibly could, because that was the only escape I could find from my sadness. It's easy for someone looking in to say, "Gosh, there are so many bigger problems in the world that that." Sure. But when it's happening to you, it's difficult to keep pasting a smile on your face and to feel happy for everyone else around you.
If you are experiencing heartache this season, please know that I understand. I have been there and I will never forget. And if you need someone to pour out your feelings to, I am here for you just a click away.
I also hope you will take a look at this guide, entitled "Surviving the Holidays Without a Child," put out by the wonderful organization Creating a Family: The National Infertility & Adoption Education Organization . This is a FABULOUS resource and truly a must-read for anyone experiencing difficulty with this time of year due to childlessness. From start to finish, it is spot-on, not only giving words of encouragement and reassurance that those feeling less than festive are not alone, but also offering real and practical strategies an individual can employ to feel much more in control of the season. It helpfully suggests possible triggers to avoid. There is even a list of "snarky answers" to nosy questions, as well as a game of Infertility Bingo, just to inject some much-needed humor into things. And their focus on how to alleviate stress, both emotional and physical, as well as financial, rounds out this guide pretty perfectly and makes it very easy for me to heartily recommend it to my Body & Spirit Fitness family. Check it out for yourself and let me know what you think!
I watched my friend Leslie's weight loss journey with Beachbody for THREE YEARS before I finally decided to jump in. After that, it didn't take me long to wonder, "Why on earth did I wait so long?!"
But even once you do start down your own path, you need to be prepared for more waiting. True health is not achieved overnight; it takes hard work and dedication to nutrition, exercise and nurturing your spirit. You will need to be patient and willing to wait as long as it takes to reach your goal. No one program is going to be the right fit for everyone, but the person who never tries at all will spend their entire life waiting.
So what are you waiting for? If you're ready, I'm here. And I can't wait to help you.
I have struggled with my weight and making healthy choices for much of my adult life. Several years ago I overcame a candida albicans overgrowth through a challenging--but simple--diet adjustment and lost about 50 pounds! I felt better than I could ever remember. I thought to myself, “I wish there was a way that I could help other people feel this way, too!”
Flash forward to a severe poison ivy infection and subsequent steroid prescription. Candida overgrowth back stronger than ever. Instant weight gain. Attempts to reverse failed. Flash forward a little further to multiple fertility treatments and the requisite hormone regimens. More candida taking over my body. More weight gained. More self-esteem lost. And more attempts to get healthy failed.
Now flash to this summer, when I decided that enough was enough and the only gift I wanted for my 39th birthday was to take back my health and reclaim my body. For good. I learned through the last few years that I cannot do this on my own--I need support from like-minded people. I remembered seeing the amazing results that my friend (and now coach) Leslie had attained through her own journey with the Beachbody programs, so I ordered my own. And joined the Beachbody community for support. And--most surprisingly--decided that perhaps I too could be a coach and fulfill that wish I had had way back when I was healthy. But do it WHILE on my own journey back to health!
And now I know for sure--that support is key. And one of the best ways to get and give support is to be a part of an online challenge group. You are much more likely to get off your couch and do a workout, or choose nutritious foods, if you know your group-mates are expecting to hear from you about it. You are more likely to shake off the setbacks and try, try again if you have people around you cheering you on.
I invite you to join me to take the first step in making a change in your life--for good. Together we'll choose the right program for you. And through a small, private online group we’ll eat nutritiously, share ways to be active, and be supported in our own journeys toward health. Together we WILL achieve our goals!
If you’re ready to really start living your life to your fullest potential, get in touch with me! Let’s do this together!
Hi! I'm Lyn and this is where I blog about family, health, workouts, nutrition, meditation, relaxation & life in general. But it's not all about me--it's about inspiring healthy changes in other people's lives.
"...the only gift I wanted was to take back my health and reclaim my body."