Do you ever play the "should" game? "I really should do this," "I really should do that," feeling guilty for wanting to do something other than Priority Number One? I do it ALL THE TIME. It's really self-defeating to think this way.
This morning I started in with that familiar recording...but then I stopped. And I decided to take charge of my day. So instead of grumbling as I started in on my shoulds, I gave myself the gift of choosing what I really wanted to start with, which was clearing up the clutter that has crept into our entry, living room, and kitchen over the past few busy weeks.
Now here I am, less than an hour later. I completed a project that didn't take long, but has gotten my day off to a nice start. I have a house that is smiling at me and, in turn, I am smiling back! I can now move on to my other work, knowing that every time I walk through our first level, I will feel fantastic!
What small victory will you give yourself today?
Oh, the holidays. A time for counting our blessings and gathering with extended family. A time for filling stockings and cheerfully singing Christmas carols. A time for sending out brightly-colored greeting cards with photos of our families and receiving the same. At least that's what we're told we should do. And many people DO love this time of year and do just these things and enjoy every moment of the season.
But if you're childless not by choice, or experiencing difficulty adding more children to your family, it can actually be the hardest time of the year. I remember vividly the Christmas of 2004. I was on break from teaching and the baby that our adoption agency had confidently assured us would be in our arms by Christmas was nowhere on the horizon. After four years of the "fertility treatment & adoption roller coaster" and still being childless, I had had enough of The Most Wonderful Time of the Year. I spent those two weeks of my holiday break that year napping as much as I possibly could, because that was the only escape I could find from my sadness. It's easy for someone looking in to say, "Gosh, there are so many bigger problems in the world that that." Sure. But when it's happening to you, it's difficult to keep pasting a smile on your face and to feel happy for everyone else around you.
If you are experiencing heartache this season, please know that I understand. I have been there and I will never forget. And if you need someone to pour out your feelings to, I am here for you just a click away.
I also hope you will take a look at this guide, entitled "Surviving the Holidays Without a Child," put out by the wonderful organization Creating a Family: The National Infertility & Adoption Education Organization . This is a FABULOUS resource and truly a must-read for anyone experiencing difficulty with this time of year due to childlessness. From start to finish, it is spot-on, not only giving words of encouragement and reassurance that those feeling less than festive are not alone, but also offering real and practical strategies an individual can employ to feel much more in control of the season. It helpfully suggests possible triggers to avoid. There is even a list of "snarky answers" to nosy questions, as well as a game of Infertility Bingo, just to inject some much-needed humor into things. And their focus on how to alleviate stress, both emotional and physical, as well as financial, rounds out this guide pretty perfectly and makes it very easy for me to heartily recommend it to my Body & Spirit Fitness family. Check it out for yourself and let me know what you think!
I watched my friend Leslie's weight loss journey with Beachbody for THREE YEARS before I finally decided to jump in. After that, it didn't take me long to wonder, "Why on earth did I wait so long?!"
But even once you do start down your own path, you need to be prepared for more waiting. True health is not achieved overnight; it takes hard work and dedication to nutrition, exercise and nurturing your spirit. You will need to be patient and willing to wait as long as it takes to reach your goal. No one program is going to be the right fit for everyone, but the person who never tries at all will spend their entire life waiting.
So what are you waiting for? If you're ready, I'm here. And I can't wait to help you.
(Sadly, that is a very common occurrence, as many short-sighted people decide they don't want their cat or dog once they have outgrown the kitten or puppy stage.) Whatever the circumstance, however, we are so glad to have him in our family!
Butters is as soft as he looks, and a total sweetie! He makes nurturing my spirit easy; all I have to do is snuggle with him and pet him, and I feel much more relaxed.
In my version of utopia, everyone would have at least one companion animal to cherish and care for. Do you have one? I highly recommend it!
Dan & I are having a great time this weekend belatedly celebrating our 14th wedding anniversary. We both took the day off yesterday, saw Gone Girl today, and have had a good mix of getting things done and relaxing.
The only thing missing? Ronan! But he's enjoying his two overnights at Grandma & Grandpa's house this weekend, and we'll get to have him back tomorrow morning! I miss my little guy!
Hi! I'm Lyn and this is where I blog about family, health, workouts, nutrition, meditation, relaxation & life in general. But it's not all about me--it's about inspiring healthy changes in other people's lives.
"...the only gift I wanted was to take back my health and reclaim my body."